I Had Two Girlfriends in 2023. I Don't Recommend It.

Why having options isn't the same as having peace—and what actually builds a power couple

In 2023, I had two girlfriends.

Both were young, attractive, and smart.Both knew about each other.Both said they weren't looking for anything serious.

On paper, that sounds like every guy's fantasy.

In reality, it was an interesting mess.

How It Started

Both of these women thought they were just going to "use me for fun for a while."No pressure. No commitment. Just a good time.

But that's not how it played out.

The longer it went on:

• Neither of them could completely let go

• But neither of them would fully give themselves to me either

They were both battling their own past relationship baggage.They loved my honesty.They loved trying to "win" more of my time and attention than the other.

At the same time, both of them tried to control me in different ways.

The Conversation That Said Everything

Because I demand complete honesty from people, I have to give it too.

So when each of them pushed things to an ultimatum, I told them the truth:

"I already started seeing someone else after the ultimatum you gave me."

What's wild is that both conversations went almost exactly the same way.

Silence for a second.Then:

"Well okay… just don't get her pregnant."

Think about that.

Not:

• "I'm done."

• "I'm out."

• "I deserve better."

But:

"Just don't get her pregnant."

That's what a strange, broken emotional triangle looks like:

• Nobody fully in

• Nobody fully out

• Everyone trying to protect themselves, but still hanging on

What It Actually Felt Like

There wasn't screaming, cheating, or big dramatic blowups.It never got really toxic.There wasn't a lot of negative energy.

It was just this odd, half‑committed triangle:

• Feelings that never fully landed

• Connection that never fully deepened

• Three people who couldn't fully trust each other, no matter how honest we tried to be

And here's the part most guys don't think about:

It's exhausting to be emotionally split between two women who are both half‑in and half‑out.

You're never fully chosen.You're never fully trusted.And you're never fully at peace.

I don't recommend it at all.

What I Learned

If you're a single man reading this, here's what that year taught me:

Having options is not the same as having peace.

Being "wanted" by multiple women is not the same as being deeply known by one.

The best parts of love—real trust, emotional safety, the kind of connection that actually fills you up—come from a level of depth that three people cannot reach.

A power couple isn't built on:

• Who can get the most attention

• Who can keep the most people orbiting around them

A power couple is built when:

• A man decides who he wants to be

• He chooses one woman who's willing to build with him

• And they both put their energy into depth, not games

Two women can compete for your time.But they can't give you the kind of safety, trust, and emotional foundation that one fully committed woman can.

If You're in "Options Mode" Right Now

I'm not here to judge you.I've lived it.

I'm just telling you:The peace, the stability, the real power you're looking for…You only get that when you stop sampling and start building.

If you're in a situationship, triangle, or some kind of "it's complicated" right now and you want clarity on what to do next, I'd love to help.

Ready to build a power couple instead of juggling options?

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Your Relationship Resource,Michael BrettMen's Relationship Mentor